Real Talk: STIs, STDs, and Why Getting Tested Matters

Let’s be honest: talking about STIs and STDs isn’t always easy. But here’s the thing — it should be. Sex and relationships are a part of life, and so is taking care of your health. That includes your sexual health.

This isn’t about shame, fear, or awkward convos. This is about facts, staying informed, and looking out for yourself and your partners.

What’s the Difference Between an STI and an STD?

You’ll hear both terms tossed around, but here’s the breakdown:

• STI stands for Sexually Transmitted Infection

• STD stands for Sexually Transmitted Disease

They’re often used interchangeably, but technically, “infection” is more accurate — not all infections cause symptoms or develop into a disease. In fact, many people with an STI won’t even know they have one unless they get tested.

Common STIs You Should Know

Here are a few of the most common infections, many of which are treatable or manageable with the right care:

• Chlamydia – Usually doesn’t show symptoms, but it can cause serious issues if untreated.

• Gonorrhea – Another common infection that can affect various parts of the body.

• HPV (Human Papillomavirus) – Very widespread; some types cause genital warts or lead to certain cancers.

• Herpes (HSV-1 & HSV-2) – Causes cold sores or genital sores. It’s common and manageable.

• HIV – A virus that attacks the immune system. With treatment, many people live long, healthy lives.

• Syphilis – Can be easy to miss, but treatable. If ignored, it can lead to serious health problems.

• Trichomoniasis – A parasite that’s easily treatable but often goes unnoticed.

Why You Should Get Tested

Getting tested isn’t just for people who think they “might have something.” It’s for everyone who’s sexually active.

• Many STIs don’t cause obvious symptoms.

• You can have an STI and still feel totally fine.

• Testing helps you protect yourself and anyone you're intimate with.

Whether it’s your first time or your fiftieth, there’s no shame in it — just responsibility.

Talking to Partners About STIs

If you're nervous about bringing it up, you're not alone. But a short, honest conversation goes a long way. Try something like:

“I care about being safe and respectful — when was the last time you were tested?”

Or:

“I got tested recently and feel better knowing my status. Want to do it together sometime?”

It might feel awkward for a minute, but most people respect the honesty. It shows maturity and that you’re looking out for both of you.

Protecting Yourself

Here are a few simple ways to stay on top of your sexual health:

• Use condoms or dental dams, especially with new partners.

• Get tested regularly — at least once a year, or more often depending on your lifestyle.

• Talk openly with partners about your status and theirs.

• Consider vaccinations for things like HPV and Hepatitis B.

Bottom Line

STIs are common. Really common. They’re not a reflection of your character, your choices, or your worth. What matters is how you handle your health moving forward.

So don’t stress. Get informed, get tested, and keep the conversation going — with your doctor, your friends, your partners, and yourself.

You deserve to feel good and be safe.